Confidence

I realised why some don't like talking to me. I destroy people's confidence more than I bring them up. I challenge ideas and make them doubt their initial thoughts. I go deep, and often people aren't comfortable with that. 

I need to insert a step before that to gauge the readiness of that experience. 

If they are casual and the relationship is short term, I should make them feel good. I should not introduce a thought provoking experience. 

If they need confidence, I should reassure them to a certain level. 

Only if they are overconfident, do I anchor them down to reality. 

My impact matters.