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When we face difficult decisions, what do we think about? Our priorities, our learnings from similar situations. Where should we start? I begin with who is in front of me and who will be impacted by my decision. In an optimized world, everything becomes a trade-off. We no longer have the luxury of "no-brainer" decisions that are superior in every aspect compared to all other alternatives. Yet, this is not a curse—it's an acceptance that we are living in the real world, where we see enough to understand the broader implications. We become aware of how our choices affect those around us, whether in relationships or in balancing long-term versus short-term outcomes. So many factors must be considered. This reminds me of a wise philosopher who said, "If I am walking on the side of a mountain, I can see first a lake, then after a few steps, a forest. I have chosen either the lake or the forest. If I want to see both the lake and forest at once, I have to climb higher....

"If I am walking on the side of a mountain, I can see first a lake, then, after a few steps, a forest. I have to choose either the lake or the forest. If I want to see both lake and forest at once, I have to climb higher." ~ Simone Weil There's so much wisdom in this quote. On the flip side, if we want to see things clearly, we have to go closer to examine the forest. To look at each tree, we have to walk right up to it. While that gives us the detail of how each tree grows in the forest, we will lose sight of the lake. So, as leaders, we have to take that hike. We have to walk down to the trees every now and then to see if the trees are growing according to how our people report to us. But we must also ensure that we hike back up into the mountains to get an overview of everything. Trust our people too much to give the right information? Disaster—as they become mechanical and cannot take into account what's going on with the lake to consider what information is impor...

After 5 years, I'm finally going to write about what I've learned from running a family business: the top 5 things I couldn't just copy-paste from the corporate world into an SME, and the top 5 things I could. Here's a teaser. First off, it's been a rough journey for me. The whole idea of "managing up" changes completely when "up" is my Dad. All those data-driven presentations I'm so used to, the facts and analysis I've come to appreciate deeply, and the structured discussions I've been trained to lead—they all went out the window. Suddenly, I found myself dealing with passion, emotions, and relationships above all else. Sure, those elements mattered in the corporate world too, but there's a threshold there where people would eventually say, "Okay, you make sense. Let's do it your way." But in this family setup, the more "facts" I presented, the more I got told I lacked "experience," that I was be...

Boredom. What's the cause of it? Is our life not interesting enough anymore? Aren't there enough things to do? Are we just at a stage in our lives where nothing feels meaningful? No—it's that our threshold for what's exciting has increased. Back in university when I was studying psychology, we were taught the definition of a drug as any substance that, when taken into the body, changes how the body or mind works. Strictly speaking, this includes things like caffeine and sugar—substances we consume daily. When we consume these in excess, they give us a dopamine spike. They act like stimulants. They directly tell the brain: MORE . These natural instincts helped in ancient times when substances like these were scarce. They drove humans to seek them out—to a certain extent, the same goes for fats. But these days, we have them in such abundance that we have to consciously reduce our consumption. We've altered the world we live in so much that evolution hasn't kept up...

When do we outgrow our family? Should we outgrow our family? At which point do we consciously cut ties? I believe family is the people we’ve spent our time growing up with. And to them, we owe the comfort of staying in touch— just like I’m genuinely interested in knowing whether you’ve turned out well. Maybe there’s still something I can do to improve your situation. Maybe not. It’s sad to realize that Arthur Fleck’s mother was actually deranged, that Thomas Wayne didn’t have an affair with her, and that it was all a story she cooked up in her head. Yes, there are real stories like that too. Unfortunately, the mind conjures up plenty of fantasies it wants to live in. We want to believe the poor deserve better; we want to believe there’s more the rich can do. But market forces remain the most sustainable way of delivering what’s “deserved.” The more we intervene in systems we don’t fully understand—or lack the perseverance to see through—the more damage we’re likely to cause in the long...

People ask the same questions over and over again despite us already giving an answer, because the answer we gave isn’t what they are looking for. So how do we combat this kind of unawareness? Maybe we should give the answer they want first, just to hook them in—so they feel their question was heard—and then caveat it with what we actually mean. Is that a form of deception? Manipulation? No. It’s influence, because we do want the best for that person. Remember: intention matters most. May all beings be happy.

Year-ends are such a tussle. Battling demotivation, overload, human tensions, etc. just wears me down. On one hand, I don’t want to procrastinate, so I keep pushing tasks out one at a time just to get things done. On the other hand, if I don’t think things through sufficiently—if I don’t give them time for consideration and for new information to surface—I’m not making the best decisions. But how does one balance procrastination versus deliberate consideration? Tough.

From my Ah Gong, stories of joyfulness, strength, and being burdenless. From my Amah, recovery, perseverance, straightforwardness, adaptation, multi-talentedness, being multi-lingual, and always making ends meet despite having so many children. From my 公公, the ability to take it all in and hold it together. That one rare moment of love—buying fireworks for me and playing with me. The stories of him never saying no to money for books. The frustration when kids get distracted from their studies. Education is key to changing one’s life, and therefore the whole generation. From my 婆婆, stories of her placing importance on literacy, and of the respect she garnered in holding the house together. From my father, generosity, hard-working nature, education, adaptation, agency, confidence. From my mother, kindness, agency too, fun and adventures, and a great, enduring social life. From my brother, truth, principle, polymathic talents, and focus. And most of all, my wife, softness. Special mention...

I'm tired of people playing games, being too smart for their own good—invoking 'privacy concerns' one minute, then pushing to overshare the moment I stop caring. Come on guys.. I understand human psychology better than many. There is an innate need to share the truth; suppressing that need hurts you more than it affects anyone else. Personally, I am very comfortable knowing only what is necessary. I’m curious, sure, but only about things that matter. If new information won't change my actions, I’d rather not have it. So go ahead, use privacy as a shield to your own detriment. I won't be asking again.

Just attended an art festival called "What The Elders Left Us." The one event I managed to catch was the "Talk and Staged Readings: Artist Lee Joo For," and boy, was I in for a treat. I chuckled a lot, and my aunt was puzzled as to why I chuckled so much. I told her that, of all the events I could have attended at this art festival, it was fated that this one about a man who was quite bold and sexual in his expressions of theatre and art was the one I attended. Even the curator, AT, confessed that she couldn't quite decide how she felt about Lee Joo For. But to me, it was clear—this was a man larger than life. One of his own family members who remembered his stories admitted she knew she couldn't believe half the things her uncle said. His imagination was wild, like the horses he drew. He also enjoyed drawing bulls and women—things he was deeply drawn to. What a man. What a life. What an impact he has made.